Ever met someone you like? If you have, then the odds are ‘like’ doesn’t even begin to describe how you feel about them.
You’re thinking about them all the time. You want to know more about them, and you enjoy their company. Your ‘like’ has all the hallmarks of a match made in heaven. Unfortunately, you work together, and you feel like you’re stuck in the zone where you’ve known each other for so long that trying anything romantic would feel weird. The question is, how do you handle a situation like this?
Ask them out.
Asking someone you like out on a date can be scary for a lot of people because of the fear of rejection. The truth is nobody wants to be rejected, and asking out a co-worker is double scary because you can’t walk away. You’d still see the person every day. However, sometimes, there’s no way around it. That’s why it helps if you make it as casual as possible.
Instead of asking them out to a romantic dinner, ask them out for drinks, and see if the idea is welcome. It helps if there’s work stuff to talk about. You can use that as a cover. If they say yes, you can see how they take the work date and go from there. If they turn you down, you can still have a good working relationship because they only turned down your request to talk about work.
Be upfront.
Very often, the people we crush on also crush on us, and we don’t know it. The reason you’re not making any progress with your love interest at work could be because you’re not clear about what you want. They can have a hundred drinks with you and still only see you as a friend from work. Sometimes, you have to be upfront about what you think of them and what you want.
It could be as simple as walking up to them after work and talking about how you feel, to asking them out to a candlelit dinner. However you choose to play your cards, the important thing to remember is that you need to say what’s on your mind. You might be surprised to find that they feel the same way as you do. Even if they don’t like you like that, you’d have earned enough respect from them to at least get them thinking about it. If you don’t try, you’ll never know.
Recruit your co-workers.
Depending on how far you’re willing to go, you can also ask your co-workers to help you out. Odds are, they’ve already noticed how you feel about your love interest and are more than willing to help out. Plus, hearing that a person likes you from someone you trust makes you pause and think about it. Your co-workers might just help you find love.
Look elsewhere.
Forget about the negative comments on trying to make your love interest jealous. It actually works. If you’ve tried getting your work crush to pay attention to you and they still ignore you, you can switch things up by paying attention to another co-worker. They are sure to get jealous when they see you happy with someone else, and that will get you all the attention you need.
Better still, date someone outside of the office and show them off. You can try interracial dating at afroromance, and get someone lovely to hang out with. You may even like your jealous date so much that you’re happy just being with them. Love often comes from where we least expect.
