Over the last couple of days, the world of social media has been plagued with news of a young woman named Felicia Czochanski who contributed an article to a magazine, which has now gone viral. The poor girl has since become victim to a lot of online negativity due to her recent publication detailing how hard it is being so beautiful and visually appealing to the opposite sex. I say poor girl, but I really have no sympathy for her and the majority of the population seem to agree with me. What surprised me was the number of men who took to Twitter to comment on her piece, stating just how ugly a beautiful woman can be when she comes across in this way and it got me to thinking – what are the top things men find most UNattractive in women?
Without haste, I quickly contacted my closest male friends for their opinions and what I really didn’t expect is that not one of them mentioned aesthetics. We women are emotional creatures, and sometimes we’re too quick to assume that something isn’t working with a man simply because they don’t fancy us, but it has come to light that there a multitude of personality traits that make a woman unattractive to a man before physical appearance comes into play, and here’s what I found…
Whether your male or female, no one likes a big head. No one ever wants to feel as if they’re punching above their weight and if you’re arrogant, it certainly doesn’t help matters. There is a very fine line between confidence and arrogance and unfortunately, a lot of women – like Felicia – who are so far past the line, it’s a dot in the distance. Be sure that if you’re feeling good or confident, don’t go OTT. It will only work to make your potential partner feel pretty inferior and your beautiful face may become blurred by this ugly personality trait, so be humble.
Apparently “there’s nothing worse when you’re trying to organise something and you get no contribution or direction from your girlfriend” and I hate to admit it, but I agree, and I used to be the absolute worst for this. Sometimes, us girls think we’re being nice when we say “oh, I don’t mind” but think about it, this is pretty dishonest, because really we do mind and god forbid you make the wrong decision because silent treatment will come out and the chastity belt will go on if not. It’s our own fault. Men like the ladies to take the reigns from time to time, and that’s okay. If you’re at the beginning of a new relationship, making decisions will make it much easier to find out about one another and more importantly, you’ll master the art of compromise in the early stages.
We’re all guilty of feeling a bit insecure about our wobbly bits, or the size of our boobs, or the shape of our bodies or, well, you get the idea, but get over it. If you’re with a man, newsflash: they love the way you look! It’s just as Mark Darcy so eloquently put it, they like us “just as we are”. More often than not, and probably thanks to the media and photoshop, we women are so self-critical and anxious about the way we look, and it’s so unnecessary. If you want a man to love you for you, then you’ve got to love yourself first. Sure, we’ll all feel like we might need to lose a few pounds or tone up or get a new hairstyle but don’t get disheartened because in the end, you’ll always find someone who loves the you you love.
Thanks to the introduction of dating platforms, such as Tinder, it’s so easy as a millenial to judge a book it’s cover. In life, we swipe left far too literally, overlooking exciting personality traits to find someone 4 inches taller. Girls, give the guys a chance. In my experience, I know a lot of women who’ve passed up on great men simply due to aesthetic factors and it didn’t make me think any more of them for doing so. Have you ever heard of anyone who’s superficial and in a happy relationship? No, me neither and I guarantee you probably never will. Ladies, look past the exterior. He might not be Gerard Butler but get to know him and you never know, you might figure out that you’ve stumbled across a goldmine.
One of the biggest things all men hate about women is the green-eyed monster. Of course, it is perfectly normal to feel a little jealous, in fact it’s healthy. It means you care enough for your partner that you become protective, like an animal marking it’s territory but don’t go over the top. Conventional wisdom suggests that there’s nothing more unattractive than a jealous woman and some of the factors that might make you feel such a way, you have to accept. Yes, your man may have female friends. Yes, he may very well work closely with other women. Should you be jealous? No. In fact, if anything, you should feel pretty good. He’s with you! Oh, wait but you have insecurities from a past relationship? Don’t let the emotional baggage get in the way. Lay your cards on the table and tell him how you feel, and you’ll find yourself gaining that much needed closure from the past that you need for the future.