When we form a romantic attachment to another, sometimes it can prove to be a little difficult to see the reasons we shouldn’t really be with them. We try to convince ourselves that ‘he’ll change’ or ‘it’s just a phase’ but sometimes, you’ve got to be brutally honest with yourself and come to terms with the fact that he’s not your prince, he’s a prick.
I’m not going to sugarcoat it, not everyone is a saint and conventional wisdom seems to suggest that there are 5 surefire signs that your partner is a prick, and if you come to learn that your partner embodies any of these traits, show them no clemency. You deserve the best, at all times, and someone who treats you as anything other than that is not someone you want to share you life with. Believe me – I’ve been there and done it.
The One Who Makes You Feel Worthless
The foundation of a fantastic relationship is made up of the positive vibes you give each other to get through life. You know what I mean – compliments, encouragement – general musings that evoke true love of one another. The things that should not come to light are those that make you feel worthless – constant criticism, for instance, that makes you feel unattractive, stupid and plain bloody foolish – are the words of a person you needn’t waste your time with. If someone likes you, or loves you, they should show that through positive reinforcement, not negative attacks so if someone goes out of their way to make you feel like shit, leave that person and their proclamations in the past. Remember – you’re not worthless – you’re priceless.
The One Who Settles Too Soon
I’m definitely an advocate of lust at first sight, but certainly not love. If you’re dating someone and within a matter of weeks, they ask you to move in or even worse, ask you to marry them. I’m sorry to be the one to tell you that in 99% of circumstances, you could be anyone at all. The craving to commit too soon rings alarm bells and shows that this wants the situation – the wife, the family, the loving home – not you. In this instance, try not to get caught up in the fantasy. Grand romantic gestures can easily work to cloud our judgement but don’t be fooled. If it’s meant to be, it will be, and there’s certainly no harm in taking this slowly! You want to fall for someone who loves you, not what you can be, and if you’re in a relationship with someone who wants to settle too soon for all the wrong reasons – get the hell outta there girl.
The One Who Is Never Accountable For Anything
It’s important to consider the fact that we’re all human, meaning we all make mistakes. However, the blame shouldn’t always lie with you. Whether it’s an argument, or a decision, or even something more trivial, there should always be shared accountability and someone who always makes you feel like you’re to blame for all the wrong-doings within a relationship is certainly not someone to be reckoned with. The relationship itself will remain to be completely unhealthy if your significant other refuses to take responsibility for their actions so in this case, make sure you’re the one who’s accountable for ending the relationship and putting your own happiness first.
The One You Know You Can Do Better Than
When you’re seeing someone, your thoughts are consumed by them and you see them in a golden light as a person who can do no wrong. However, when you’re on the outside looking in, the light doesn’t exist and instead, there is a shadow of foreboding. Of course, when you’re on the inside of the relationship, you don’t see this. Not because you can’t, but because sometimes we refuse to see the bad in the people we believe to be good. It’s time to face reality. When you’re crossing the road to love, you’ve got to stop, look and listen to what’s really going on. If your friends and family believe that you can do better, chances are you probably can.
The One Who Thinks You’re Never Enough
A healthy relationship is all about giving, but sometimes, it seems you just simply don’t have enough to give. This obviously isn’t the case, but in the eyes of your partner, what you have to offer and what you do simply isn’t enough to satisfy their narcissistic needs. You could be the most selfless person on the planet and yet, still, you’re made to feel cold, unloving and emotionally incapable of supporting your significant other. The worst part is, a lot of women are convinced that this is actually the case. It’s not. Don’t allow yourself to feel like you have nothing to give, because if you hold your head high and leave this person, they’ll soon realise they had everything they ever wished for.
Don’t feel disheartened if you’ve come to realise that your partner isn’t quite what you’d hoped them to be. If they’ve come to show their true colours, it’s no reason at all to feel sad because in fact, what you have done is realised your worth and now, the world is your oyster and you are the pearl. Your happy ending is getting closer by the day, and that knight in shining armour will treat you like the royalty you are, so pick up your head princess, your tiara is falling.
P.S. To my dear, beautiful friend who is battling a bad relationship – walk away gorgeous girl, you are worth SO much more than that!