In this day and age, we’d all be pretty naïve to assume that sex doesn’t play a fundamental role within our relationships. It doesn’t matter how serious or casual your liaisons are, sex is crucial to the success of any sort of connection.
However, we’re living in amongst Generation Y – the millennial, instant generation – meaning when we want something, we want it now. Naturally, this isn’t always feasible, especially when it comes to sex so as always, we turn to technology to satisfy our needs. No, in this instance, I’m not referring to internet pornography although I’m sure that would do the trick for the vast majority. I’m talking about sexting.
What is sexting I hear you say? Well, let’s put two and two together. Sexting is texting about sex – over the phone foreplay if you will. It’s certainly not uncommon either. Whether you’re chatting to someone online, or with a partner, sexting is now a normal practise for those engaging in sexual relations and of course, there are pros and cons as with anything.
If you’re away from your significant other, it’s a pretty exciting way to spice things up by sending messages about what you’d like to do with each other. Within reason obviously, and without the awkwardness that can sometimes be present in phone sex. C’mon, don’t pretend you’ve not done it and felt uncomfortable talking dirty over the telephone. Talk about breaking a comfort zone.
I remember having phone sex one time, and my feeling of unease was nothing short of predominant. The guy on the other end was so enthusiastic – he would have been a wonderful actor – and I was just giving the odd moan and groan to signify my inclusion in the conversation. It was probably my own fault for not giving the situation my undivided attention, I was trying to watch Millionaire Matchmaker in the background after all. Note to self: Remove all distractions when trying to get your jollies from a phone call. Needless to say I much prefer sexting. It’s a great feeling reading back what you’ve both said as well as going into more detail. Stand back men, the erotic novelist is in the house.
It has come to my attention, however, that not everyone has been gifting with the art of creative writing and this has become increasingly evident after having read some of my own received ‘sexts’ and those received by my friends. When you’re sexting, don’t be afraid to throw in a few adjectives – describing words – to make your text that little bit more interesting to ensure that the recipient is left hot under the collar and damp between the… you get the idea.
A blunt, straight-to-the-point sext will never really convey the message you so strongly want to get across, so try and think a little more outside-the-box. After all, sexting is a kind of foreplay. A teasing taster of what’s to come. Think about it like this – if you’re out for a meal and you get a piece of dry, stale bread as a starter, you’re not exactly going to be thrilled waiting for the main. It may just seem like a meaningless text, but the fine art of foreplay in any form will ensure that the high expectations of the main event come to fruition.
So next time you find your texts getting heated, carpe diem and get stuck in. Tell a story your partner simply won’t be able to forget and I guarantee the resultant act will be worth the wait! Unless he sends you a random “dick pic”, probs best to leave it there.