This is real life and relationships aren’t always bunny rabbits and rainbows. Of course, when given a bit of extra attention, they can be that way. If you’re in the right relationship, it’s easier but it still requires work in some form. The thing is – we’re all different – so we’re always going to have differences, and similarities, and it’s recognising the things that sets us apart that ironically, brings us closer together.
After having done some homework and speaking to the right people – and of course, from my own personal experience as always – I’ve come to the decision that there are 5 traits to an amazing relationship, and here’s what they are…
You’ve got to learn to bend in relationships and come to agreements on certain things, pick your battles if you will. The inability to compromise causes conflict which is inevitably a recipe for disaster. If you meet in the middle on the little things, you’ll find that there’s less confrontation and you’re generally a lot happier. Be careful you don’t bend to far though because as with anything, if you bend too much, you snap. Good relationships are all about give and take in all forms, so you scratch his back and he’ll scratch yours.
You’ve got to be able to talk to one another about pretty much everything and there’s no way around it. Your thoughts, your feelings, your decisions, your work, your worries – everything. The more you talk, the more you understand each other, the more empathy you have, the more you’ll realise how you can help each other and be there for each other and as a whole, move forward as a couple. Being able to communicate, again, also prevents any unnecessary confrontation which creates all the situations you generally hope and pray to avoid.
If you’re in a relationship, you both need to be committed to one another. That can mean anything from supporting the other person with decisions they make to being wholly faithful. Commitment means you’re in it together and you’re there for each other and that’s what a good relationship needs. In a strong relationship, you need to know that you can rely on your partner for, well, pretty much everything and being committed to each other eradicates all uncertainties. I don’t necessarily mean put a ring on it, but just make sure that your partner knows that you’re in.
This covers all the bases, from being attracted to your significant other “a compelling attractiveness that inspires devotion” and personality. Sure, a lot of people say opposites attract but only in some ways. The more similarities you have, the more likely you are to get on more naturally and maintain the physical and emotional attraction you have to one another.
I don’t just mean physical care, relationships need a significant amount of care in order to be successful. You’ve got to care how you partner feels, how they think, care about their passions, the list is endless. A relationship without care is like an empty wine glass on Friday night, useless and disappointing!
If you’re with someone you love and you feel like there’s a bit of lacking in some areas, get it sorted. Ignoring teething problems and subtle disagreements aren’t worth risking a great relationship for. Compromise, communication, commitment, charisma and care are key to making your relationship last, so be sure to tick all the boxes.