Apparently, according to science and all that, the way we sleep in bed with our partners actually says a hell of a lot about our relationships. When I first mulled over this idea, I thought “of course it does, if I’m cold and I steal all the covers and he lets it happen, he loves me but if he fights back, he clearly hates me and wants me to freeze”. Sadly, my theory was incorrect (although I firmly believe it) – it’s the actually sleeping bit that matters, as in, how you lie when you’re away with the midnight fairies.
So, what does YOUR sleeping position say about your relationship?
27% of couples sleep this way
This sleeping position means that you are connected and secure in your relationship, as this shows both closeness and independence. This might mean that – when you’re awake – you love spending time together but are equally happy in your own company too, something that’s very important to sustain a healthy relationship.
23% of couples sleep this way
This sleeping position means that you are a couple that’s relaxed and comfortable with each other. This is common in new(ish) relationships as you’ve come to discover what you both like, dislike, love and hate, and you’re totally comfortable sitting around each other not quite dolled-up-to-the-nines. You’ve become close enough to your partner to drop your guard and feel safe, secure and chilled around them.
3% of couples sleep this way
This sleeping position shows a need for intimacy and close communication in bed. This might mean that during everyday life, there could be a need for continuing closeness, perhaps you spend a lot of time apart without communicating? Perhaps something is going on that you need support with? Either way, to know that your partner is always there for you, even when you’re sleeping, is a pretty good feeling.
8% of couples sleep this way
This sleeping position shows a compromise between intimacy and independence, allowing for the best of both worlds. Couples lock-in to each other for around 10 minutes before letting go and nodding off. This gives off the “I’m here for you but I need my space” vibe which – again – is integral to a healthy, happy relationship.
18% of couples sleep this way
This sleeping position is one of the most traditional and shows that one partner is taking a protective stance over the other. Of course, it’s the obvious choice for many and let’s face it, we women love to be a little spoon every now and again.
4% of couples sleep this way
Often seen in early relationships, this sleeping position represents vibrant, passionate or rekindled love. This is how my partner and I sleep, and I’m not sure I could tell you why we choose to go to sleep this way but I’ve gotta admit, I find it quite relaxing with my head on his chest and his arm wrapped round me, I’ve just got to make sure I keep my mouth shut so that I don’t get a gob full of chest pubes.
2% of couples sleep this way
This sleeping position is both romantic and intimate, and it displays a lack of independence from each other. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing, some couples are each other against the world and it’s these types that tend to sleep intertwined but as you can see, at 2%, it’s few and far between.
3% of couples sleep this way
This sleeping position is where one partner dominates the bed, and the other takes a secondary role. Not the most ideal, especially if you end up falling off the bed and whacking your head on the bedside table because your other half has decided to take up even more of your side.
So – have you learned anything about your relationship from the way you sleep?
If you have, great, I always think it’s interesting to see what your body language says about your feelings. If you haven’t, it doesn’t matter, just remember how important it is to get a good night’s sleep – whether you’re a spooner or not. How to do it?
1 – Don’t go to sleep stressed
2 – Go to bed at the same time each night
3 – Don’t go to be angry or arguing
4 – Try and fix the “snoring” problem
5 – Turn your phone off or silent
6 – Avoid caffeine
In fact, with this in mind, I’m…
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